{"id":57,"date":"2021-08-29T09:06:21","date_gmt":"2021-08-29T09:06:21","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/inappropriatenotions.orderstack.xyz\/?p=57"},"modified":"2023-11-13T08:50:25","modified_gmt":"2023-11-13T08:50:25","slug":"not-ugly","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/inappropriatenotions.orderstack.xyz\/index.php\/2021\/08\/29\/not-ugly\/","title":{"rendered":"&#8216;Not Ugly&#8217;"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>\u2018Not ugly\u2019 was the only compliment I used to get standing next to my cousins. Being \u2018not ugly\u2019 was like a super happy feeling. I used to think <em>at least I am not different<\/em>. As the years went by like a summer breeze, being \u2018not ugly\u2019 started to affect me. When I went to my close ones and shared how I felt about not looking good or looking as beautiful as my sibling, the only response I got was, \u201cyou are not ugly\u201d. This statement makes it even more difficult to digest that people compare me to being \u2018not ugly\u2019 rather than calling me simply beautiful.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Childhood is a nurturing phase and it sucks to be called \u2018not ugly\u2019 when you don\u2019t even know the meaning of the fine lines between words. When someone doesn\u2019t click a picture with you but prefers to click one with your good-looking sibling, it pricks like a needle in a sewing machine. It is not jealousy that eats me up but the lack of being content and constantly angry for not being an eye-pleaser. For a person who\u2019s been called \u2018not ugly\u2019 all their life, a small \u201cyou look pretty\u201d is a life-changing sentence.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>However, when I look back at the people who have discouraged me throughout my adolescence, have not done anything to put me down but to lift me up. In their mind calling me \u2018not ugly\u2019 is weirdly giving me a compliment or indirectly calling me appealing. Being \u2018not ugly\u2019 is not a bad thing. I will not look at the brighter side of things but look at the reality of it all, being what I am, which is unique and in my own beautiful way.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Everything is a matter of perspective. Being \u2018not ugly\u2019 is a name tag that should not put one down but only lift the other up. A lesson learned is knowledge gained and so is this. \u201cI am beautiful\u201d, that\u2019s a mantra we all need to preach.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Calling out all the people who consider back-handed compliments as a legitimate way of making someone feel better.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"om_disable_all_campaigns":false},"categories":[7],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/inappropriatenotions.orderstack.xyz\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/57"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/inappropriatenotions.orderstack.xyz\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/inappropriatenotions.orderstack.xyz\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/inappropriatenotions.orderstack.xyz\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/inappropriatenotions.orderstack.xyz\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=57"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/inappropriatenotions.orderstack.xyz\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/57\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":3099,"href":"https:\/\/inappropriatenotions.orderstack.xyz\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/57\/revisions\/3099"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/inappropriatenotions.orderstack.xyz\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=57"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/inappropriatenotions.orderstack.xyz\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=57"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/inappropriatenotions.orderstack.xyz\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=57"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}