Know that girl that oiled her hair from 1st standard until the 10th and put on two tight braids every single day of school – no matter what? Yeah, that was me. At first, it didn\u2019t bother me much, but when it finally started to dawn on me that I was the only one doing it, it became almost like a characteristic of being uncool (my oversized blue specs didn\u2019t help much either). My mother told me that oiling my hair would help with hair fall and make my hair soft, thick and I\u2019d have no damage. TBH, that may be true but it never worked for me.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
I have always had thin, soft, wavy hair prone to hair fall and split ends. It didn\u2019t matter how much I oiled them and trust me, I did lots of it, it was just something that never worked for me. Instead, I ended up damaging my hair even more because one round of shampoo was never enough to get the oil out of my scalp and so the quantity of sulphate just kept increasing, every single day. So what did I end up doing? Blamed my genetics, of course.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
When I got older and wiser (don\u2019t laugh), I finally realised that not everything that works for the majority necessarily works for you. I know someone who hates mangoes, someone who actually can\u2019t finish a movie because they can\u2019t handle that much screen time and even someone who finds Chris Evans unattractive. My point is that something that works for someone, can be completely disastrous for the other. Can we stop shaming people for literally just having an individual personality and individual tastes?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
As I type this, I can\u2019t believe how ridiculous it is to even say it out loud as an \u2018inappropriate notion\u2019 but the truth is that the day and age we live in, it is so difficult to understand that it is not necessary for one to act upon a piece of advice given just because the giver feels its the best thing for the receiver. Who are you, Mr. Giver, to decide if this is going to work for me?! Oh and please don\u2019t start with the, \u2018I am only trying to help\u2019 because if you did only want to help, then you wouldn\u2019t be offended when I rejected your \u2018guidance\u2019 on accounts of it not working for me. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
I used to know someone who constantly messaged me with ways on how I can lose weight. This male acquaintance who had been in my life for less than three months found it appropriate to advise me on an insecurity that I have dealt with all my life? LOL, you think I don\u2019t know about calorie deficit and the benefits of running? Safe to say, they are no longer a part of my life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
A friend of mine walked into my bedroom, picked up my skincare and faulted every bottle. Nope, not because they were harmful products but because they did nothing FOR THEM. Did they ask me how I felt about those? No. However, did they continue to recommend a list of products that, once again, worked FOR THEM? Yes. When I politely declined to purchase them, they said I didn\u2019t know enough about skincare. It may be true that I am not fully educated, but I know enough to know what works for me and what doesn\u2019t. So why does everyone act as if I have lived like Rapunzel for 23 years of my life?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Also, just because something is better – does not automatically mean that it is what you prefer. Last week, a friend went through flak because they chose to deal with a situation in a way that suited them. Personally, I think it could have been dealt with in a better way but they did what felt right to them and I\u2019d be the biggest hypocrite if I didn\u2019t give them credit for doing just that. Sometimes, you truly cannot put yourself in someone\u2019s shoes until you go through it but when you\u2019re in deep shit, would you want to feel supported or would you want to be told, \u2018hey, you can do better than this.\u2019<\/p>\n\n\n\n
I think it all comes down to who you are and honestly, you can\u2019t always fake it till you make it. So be very careful of how much of someone\u2019s advice you want to take. Just because they seem older and wiser, doesn\u2019t necessarily mean that they know better about what\u2019s best for you. In fact, pay no heed to this blog either, if you feel that this does not align with the kind of person you are. Trust your gut, you\u2019ve got this.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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